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The Right Way to Discover Your Life Path by Mr and Mrs Gao

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人生選擇的三個篩選條件​

影片強調，人生的選擇需要按照重要程度進行排序和篩選，而不是僅憑夢想或願望。這三個步驟分別是：

1. 價值觀（最重要的原則與底線）​

價值觀是你在做一件事時的原則和標準，是你最看重的東西。

  • 如何發掘： 回答五個問題，並從中總結出你的核心關鍵詞，這些就是你的底線和行為標準 。
    • 你尊敬或崇拜的人是誰？喜歡他/她哪一點？
    • 在青春期或人生最活躍的時期，是否有對你影響很大的事情？
    • 你覺得現在的社會或周圍環境有什麼不足或需要改善的地方？
    • 問問你周圍的人，他們覺得你是個看重什麼東西的人？
    • 如果別人需要你的建議，你會給他們什麼建議？

2. 天賦與才能（與生俱來的能力）​

天賦是基因帶來的、學不來且不易改變的要素，也是大部分人最容易忽略的。許多人誤將興趣愛好或後天習得的技能當作天賦。

  • 如何發掘： 回答五個問題，並從中總結出你的「使用說明書」。
    • 你人生中最充實的一段經歷是什麼？
    • 最近一次讓你對別人的某些行為感到不耐煩的事情是什麼？
    • 問問你周圍的人，你擅長什麼？
    • 如果你不幹現在的工作，有什麼特別想做的事情？
    • 到目前為止，做成過什麼事情嗎？
    • 長處/短處的兩面性： 作者指出，你的每一個缺點，從另一個角度看都是一個優點（如反應慢可能是高度集中、不輕易受外界干擾的長處）。

3. 夢想與願望（興趣和熱情）​

夢想應是單純從喜歡和興趣的角度出發，而不是從賺錢或社會意義的角度出發 。

  • 如何發掘： 回答五個問題，來辨別哪些是真夢想：
    • 有什麼事情，就算要花錢，你也願意去了解或學習？
    • 你書架上有什麼內容的書？（或你願意花錢查閱的資料）
    • 有什麼內容對你的人生產生過救贖或啟發的作用？
    • 你有想要特別感謝的人和事嗎？
    • 你對這個社會和世界有什麼不滿或憤怒？

最終的人生之路​

當你有了價值觀（原則）、才能（能力）和夢想（動力）之後，將夢想與才能結合起來，形成可行的人生方向。然後，用你的價值觀來篩選這些方向 。

  • 成功的關鍵： 最終的選擇一定要符合你的核心價值觀，否則即使再美好也會感到痛苦和沒有意義。
  • 持續的選擇： 人生選擇不是一勞永逸，因為社會和你的價值觀都會不斷變化，因此需要不停地做選擇 。

English Translation (by Gemini)​

Three Filtering Criteria for Life Choices​

The video emphasizes that life choices should be prioritized and filtered by importance, rather than simply based on dreams or wishes. These three steps are:

1. Values (The Most Important Principles and Bottom Line)​

Values are the principles and standards you adhere to when undertaking an action, representing what you care about most.

  • How to Discover: Answer five questions and summarise your core keywords from them. These keywords represent your bottom line and standards of conduct.
    • Who do you respect or admire? What do you like about him/her?
    • Was there anything during your adolescence or most active period of life that significantly influenced you?
    • What shortcomings or areas for improvement do you see in the current society or your surrounding environment?
    • Ask people around you what they believe you value most.
    • If others sought your advice, what advice would you give them?

2. Innate Talents and Abilities (Inborn Capabilities)​

Talent is an element determined by genetics, which cannot be learned or easily changed, and is the factor most easily overlooked by people. Many mistakenly treat hobbies or acquired skills as innate talent.

  • How to Discover: Answer five questions and summarise your "user manual" from them.
    • What was the most fulfilling experience of your life?
    • What was the most recent thing that made you feel impatient about someone else's behaviour?
    • Ask people around you what you are good at.
    • If you weren't doing your current job, what is something you especially want to do?
    • What have you succeeded at so far?
    • The Duality of Strengths/Weaknesses: The author points out that every one of your shortcomings is a strength from another perspective (e.g., slow reaction time might be a strength in high concentration and resistance to external interference).

3. Dreams and Wishes (Interests and Passion)​

Dreams should purely originate from the perspective of what you like and are interested in, not from the perspective of earning money or social significance

  • How to Discover: Answer five questions to distinguish true dreams:
    • What is something you would be willing to spend money on to learn or understand?
    • What kind of books are on your bookshelf? (Or what kind of information are you willing to pay to consult?)
    • What content has had a saving or inspiring effect on your life?
    • Is there anyone or anything you particularly want to thank?
    • What are your dissatisfactions or angers towards society and the world?

The Final Life Path​

Once you have your Values (principles), Talent (ability), and Dreams (motivation), combine your dreams with your talent to form a viable life direction. Then, use your values to filter these directions

  • Key to Success: The final choice must align with your core values; otherwise, no matter how great the choice is, you will feel pain and meaninglessness.
  • Continuous Choice: Life choice is not a one-time solution, as both society and your values constantly change. Therefore, you need to keep making choices.